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Rewriting House Contract with Teens

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Our family decided that we needed to start going to family therapy.  Communication and respect is something that has been a constant struggle since my daughter started high school, so it was time to get outside help.  We found an amazing therapist from a referral, and we had our second session yesterday.  During the session, we discussed the contract that I wrote after reading this great book called “Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love” by Scott P. Sells.  It had great examples on writing the contract and including consequences and rewards.

After yesterday’s session, the therapist agreed that a contract is a great idea, and that having both negative and positive reinforcements is the way to go.  However, the contract should have been written by all three of us, and not just me.  I did write the contract, and I talked to both Ceb and Isa, but I saw my mistake in not having them part of the process from the beginning.  Therefore, we all agreed that we need to have a family meeting to create a new contract that we are all comfortable with.

We plan to do it today, so I am hoping that we can come with a reasonable and solid contract that the three of us are comfortable with. 

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