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Celebrating My Late Sister’s Memory on Her Birthday

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Today is my sister’s birthday.  Kristine would have been 37 years old.  In the nine years that she has been gone, I have missed her every single day.  In the first few years of her passing, I couldn’t even function on her birthday and the anniversary of her death.  I would take the day off and disconnect from everyone (excluding the kids because I still had to be a mother).  After extensive therapy to deal with losing one of the most important people in my life, I realized that I was doing her an injustice by getting depressed and becoming a shut-in for the month of January.  My sister would not want that for any of her loved ones.  Instead, Kristine would want us to celebrate and remember her.

After work, I went and got three chocolate bundt cakes to honor my sister on her birthday.  This girl was obsessed with candy and chocolate.  If I wasn’t trying to lose weight, I would have also bought a bunch of candy, especially those sour apple licorice, and just eaten them.  When she was stationed in Afghanistan, I always made sure to add those to the care packages I sent her.  She would send the kids a box full of candy.  Kristine loved dancing and would have been a Selfie Queen. She was one of the only people I could talk for hours with and never get bored. We exchanged our ideas and respected if we had a difference of opinion. I thought she was one of the most exotic, beautiful, and smartest people I have ever known.

I miss her tremendously, but it helps finding ways to remember her with other people than to be alone and sad.

Happy birthday Kristine! I love you very much.

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